Doctor Love's Advice Column #4

Dr. Love has returned with a fourth round of advice for his adoring fans! Strap yourselves in, because you are riding with the Love Doctor. I mean, he's got a PhD and everything! It's amazing what you can make with construction paper these days...

Some of these questions were culled from random locations spread out across the internet. Others were sent in by readers. In the future, if you have an anonymous question for Doc Love, just send it via Mr. T at the address listed near the bottom of this page. Please be advised that Dr. Love is not a licensed professional and his advice is mainly intended for entertainment purposes only. If you manage to get anything else out of it – well, good for you.

This edition's answers are pretty short. The good doctor has been moonlighting with a second job, so his time is quite limited. (You can still book him for appointments, bar-mitzvahs and mall openings.)

He's so giving!

What is the appropriate time in a relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend) to start buying gifts for someone? What type of gifts do guys like to get from their girlfriend or wife? - Latyrce

Doctor Love responds:

When you feel that the two of you are in a comfortable place in your relationship. Look for hits from the other partner. Also sit down and talk about what milestones you guys want to celebrate.

Where is the love?

Sometimes I get the desire to want to be in love with someone very special. Just yesterday in the car with my friend I told him that sometimes I feel that all the girls I would like to meet are somewhere that I am not. That they live somewhere far away, that they go to work or school somewhere that I don't go to. That they party and have fun in all the places that I am never at. - Naoki

Doctor Love responds:

Just keep your head up and your eyes above water and you will find someone. It is just like finding the remote control your grandmother lost, you always seem to find it when you're not looking.

Same ol', same ol'

I have noticed that most of the peple tend to chose the same kind of people for a future partner. In my case I always tend to chose commitment phobic men, single (no girlfriend), inmature, younger than me... all the people that I date has all this things!...My best friend always chose womanizer man, that tends to abuse her verbally and hurt her, agressive men...ALL THE MEN SHE HAS DATED IS THE SAME! Another friend always date mature man, that treats her right but always with girlfriend... ALWAYS THE SAME.Why do you think that most of the pple tend to chose the same kind of person?... Do you think it has to be with some psychologic and family thing?... - Denisse

The Nurse Responds:

Hi Denisse. I'm guest answering this one for Dr. Love.
First off, I think it is good that you tend to date single men. Dating attached men is probably not the greatest idea in the world.
Now on to your question; Why do most people choose the same kind of person? Probably because that is what they are looking for in a partner. Some women like smart, funny, sweet guys. When they find someone that meets this criteria, the chances of her dating that person will be far greater than the chances of dating a beer swilling, tatooed KKK member with a penchant for 18th century literature and body butter.
On the other hand, some women like racist, alcoholic, well-read bikers that smell like coconut. If that is the case, these men will be on the top of their dating pile. It all comes down to personal preference. I'm sure there is a psychological basis for the creation of preferences but that's another story.

Previous Dr. Love columns:
1. Doctor Love is Ready to Operate
2. Doctor Love's Advice Column #2
3. Doctor Love's Advice Column #3

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Exclusive coverage of the World Cup celebration in Toronto's Little Italy featuring Avi and Joey.